A fine way to dine

You’ve been invited to a formal dinner party, but you haven’t a clue what to do? I had the misfortune of attending one and since I didn’t have a clue, I read up and am glad to say I was able to hold my own. Here are a few simple tips: 

In order to master proper dining etiquette, it is important to follow some simple rules that is sure to wow your guests. The use of good table manners is important at any meal, and more so when it comes to fine dining. Make sure that you maintain a good posture, use proper language, and show respect towards your fellow guests.

When using cutlery or silverware, it is important to begin with the outside pieces first and move in as the meal courses progress. Cutlery items should only be used for their intended purpose and should not be interchanged or used throughout the meal. It is important to compliment the host or hostess when possible in a sincere manner that does not come across as simulated flattery. It is okay to say ‘this wine is exceptional’ or ‘this is one of my favourite desserts’ as long as the statement is true.

If you have a special dietary requirement, it should be addressed prior to the meal and not once you have been served. But, you are not obligated to eat something you cannot or do not like. Do not complain about the item that is served to you. It is polite to leave an item on your plate or refuse a second helping or a dessert.

While the proper way to show that you are finished with a salad or entrée is to place your cutlery horizontally across the plate, this is not always the case with other dishes such as small bowls or ice cream cups. The proper way to conduct yourself during the removal of plates and dishes between courses is to sit perfectly still. Don’t try to help as you may just end up making a mess.

If you have initiated the meal or been invited to the meal, you should always thank your dining companion for making the time and effort to join you. It is important to give them your full attention and try to refrain from interrupting the person who is speaking. Pay attention to what they are saying because you would expect the same when you are speaking.

The use of cell phones and pagers during a meal is often frowned upon as an interruption and it’s a sign that you are not willing to devote your full attention to the meal or conversation. If you repeatedly excuse yourself from the table to attend to other matters, companions at the table may feel insulted or offended.

Also, remember that smoking is considered ill-mannered and unless you are offered drinks and a cigarette after dinner, do not take out your pack and light up. Finally, asking for carryout portions is inappropriate when you are a guest. Follow these simple, yet effective rules and you are sure to make the dining experience a fine one.